Friends with benefits???
Yet again I am back here and a lot has happened. After unofficially ending things with my chocolate and vanilla swirl *Crazy eyes voice* guy I was bored bored bored. There happened to be two weeks of summer when ALL of my friends were holiday. While they were off sunning themselves in places like Italy and America I was stuck in the mildy warm weather of Britain at work. One of my friends from school and I met up one day and as I expressed to her my intense boredom she suggested that I download an app called Skout.
Skout is an app for teenagers where you can chat to people near you or even abroad, essentially the teenbop version of Tinder. I actually decided to download the app because I thought it's be cool to meet some guys my own age and just have conversion. Not to tell a lie I was also very hormonal that summer and since it had been a few months since my cherry was popped I thought what better than to get back into the dating pool now that I was emotionally stable and whatnot.
So I downloaded the app, picked out my cutest selfie and got to talking. To my surprise I was quite popular on the sight having 100s of views on my profile the first day and plenty of guys vying for my attention. Of course I was flattered and lapped up the huge ego boost. At first I replied to most people as custom but after running into a potential satanist????? I decided to be a bit more selective and only replied to the best looking guys.
During this time I had both a positive and negative experience. I managed to have some in depth conversion with some people even a few Americans, where I learnt so much about the cultural differences with have, and it was in general had just good conversion and not more that than. Some few lucky guys even got my snapchat and we talked on there for a day or two before the conversation would run out and I would make no effort to carry it on; due to the list of guys piling up to talk to me. On the other hand my block list on the app was so long that I tried to screenshot it and it took up quite a few photos. Guys being guys were hormonal and were only interested in sex or sexting.
The amount of times I got asked if "I like sex", for my bra size or got the generic "hey wuu2" made me worry for this generation that I'm growing up in. However one positive from having to dodge so many pick lines and come ons is I'm now an expert at seeing through guys bullshit- well maybe only the basic level. (There are some guys out there who are sooooooooo stupid but like Mensa smart when it comes to tricking girls out of their clothes. *eyeroll*)
But all these negative experiences don't matter because I met the best guy. Who I am going to refer to as "Guy" for the rest of this; but the funny thing is we don't have a romantic relationship. We are just friends with benefits but not the type you're thinking. The benefits of our friendship is that I have a restored view of guys. When we first started talking I was wondering why the topic of sex was not brought up or why he didn't compliment me every second and this hurt my confidence just a little bit. I had gotten so used to guys showing they liked me through my physical appearance but he didn't do this so I was worried.
So I kept trying to bring up sex or turn the conversation flirtatious but each time I didn't get the response I wanted, for a second I even thought that he might be gay or something. But after getting to know him I realised my view of guys was very toxic and I almost wanted them to treat me badly. We had some very deep conversations and I realised what a genuine guy he was. For a second I even fell for him because I thought all the good guys like this didn't exist or were already taken; however I realised after that we were not compatible in a romantic way and his friendship was more important to me.
I'm really thankful I decided to try that stupid app for those two weeks because it taught me a lot. I think I was meant to meet Guy because he's changed my view on relationships so much and he doesn't even know. So from now on I'm going to steer clear of the bad boys mostly... I've realised I
never want to be used for sex again unless I'm using them back lol.
To the best friends with benefits a girl could wish to have Guy, you may not be in my life forever but you'll have an impact forever. Thanks.
Skout is an app for teenagers where you can chat to people near you or even abroad, essentially the teenbop version of Tinder. I actually decided to download the app because I thought it's be cool to meet some guys my own age and just have conversion. Not to tell a lie I was also very hormonal that summer and since it had been a few months since my cherry was popped I thought what better than to get back into the dating pool now that I was emotionally stable and whatnot.
So I downloaded the app, picked out my cutest selfie and got to talking. To my surprise I was quite popular on the sight having 100s of views on my profile the first day and plenty of guys vying for my attention. Of course I was flattered and lapped up the huge ego boost. At first I replied to most people as custom but after running into a potential satanist????? I decided to be a bit more selective and only replied to the best looking guys.
During this time I had both a positive and negative experience. I managed to have some in depth conversion with some people even a few Americans, where I learnt so much about the cultural differences with have, and it was in general had just good conversion and not more that than. Some few lucky guys even got my snapchat and we talked on there for a day or two before the conversation would run out and I would make no effort to carry it on; due to the list of guys piling up to talk to me. On the other hand my block list on the app was so long that I tried to screenshot it and it took up quite a few photos. Guys being guys were hormonal and were only interested in sex or sexting.
The amount of times I got asked if "I like sex", for my bra size or got the generic "hey wuu2" made me worry for this generation that I'm growing up in. However one positive from having to dodge so many pick lines and come ons is I'm now an expert at seeing through guys bullshit- well maybe only the basic level. (There are some guys out there who are sooooooooo stupid but like Mensa smart when it comes to tricking girls out of their clothes. *eyeroll*)
But all these negative experiences don't matter because I met the best guy. Who I am going to refer to as "Guy" for the rest of this; but the funny thing is we don't have a romantic relationship. We are just friends with benefits but not the type you're thinking. The benefits of our friendship is that I have a restored view of guys. When we first started talking I was wondering why the topic of sex was not brought up or why he didn't compliment me every second and this hurt my confidence just a little bit. I had gotten so used to guys showing they liked me through my physical appearance but he didn't do this so I was worried.
So I kept trying to bring up sex or turn the conversation flirtatious but each time I didn't get the response I wanted, for a second I even thought that he might be gay or something. But after getting to know him I realised my view of guys was very toxic and I almost wanted them to treat me badly. We had some very deep conversations and I realised what a genuine guy he was. For a second I even fell for him because I thought all the good guys like this didn't exist or were already taken; however I realised after that we were not compatible in a romantic way and his friendship was more important to me.
I'm really thankful I decided to try that stupid app for those two weeks because it taught me a lot. I think I was meant to meet Guy because he's changed my view on relationships so much and he doesn't even know. So from now on I'm going to steer clear of the bad boys mostly... I've realised I
never want to be used for sex again unless I'm using them back lol.
To the best friends with benefits a girl could wish to have Guy, you may not be in my life forever but you'll have an impact forever. Thanks.
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